This site will be starting personal development book club. The club will not be a traditional type of club. It will be in an online format.
Finding books related to self improvement is easy. But it is difficult to know:
- How the material can help you and your growth in your life
- How different the content is from other books
- If the material is new, or if there were older versions that have the same material
- If it is accurate material
And having another way to discover new material is helpful. The personal development book club information will be available on this site. This page will be updated when that happens.
How did you learn your own native language? Immersion. You were immersed in the culture, and you connected learning the language with other areas of life, such as food, music, and movies.
If you learn a new language, you can start with low, or “lite”, immersion, just once a week, or go with high or full immersion, with every day being completely experienced with that language (and usually culture too).
And, just like language immersion, you can have personal development immersion. It can be low, or high. The more immersed, the more influence it has on your change.
But how to do this?
Some Personal Development Immersion Ideas
You can try the following tactics:
- increase the time you are exposed to the following:
- better thinking (mood, strategy, etc.)
- positive life strategies (movies, tv, conversations, social media, etc.)
- increase the time you spend (in person) with positive influence people:
- people in your family who are positive
- your friends or co-workers who are positive
- new people you can meet once, or regularly: shop keepers, friends, friends’ friends
- increase the time you think for yourself about positive stuff:
- read more/watch more/listen more/feel more
- put up positive signs in your environment:
- plan to (or decide to plan to) look for people and situations that have positive aspects. Develop this habit.
You probably thought of other ways that would work in your life. The key idea to remember is: the more time your mind spends on ideas you want, the less time it spends on ideas you don’t want.
And slowly you will change, thought by thought, into the type of thinker and person you want to be.
A theme from the upcoming book “Personal Revolutions” is a re-working of the “you become what you think about” concept from Earl Nightingale and others. Expanding on the “thinking” part, it includes the action side of life.
Each action we complete carries with it the memory-making of what we have done. Those memories form brain circuits that can be re-activated. So, when a decision point comes up later, those circuits are formed are ready to fire. The activities we “didn’t take” have created no memories, and so we are not as likely to makes choices that include that area.
This pattern is both positive and negative:
- Negative: when you make actions that are not in your best interests, you set up yourself to have those thought patterns in the future. These patterns become “comfortable” even though part of your mind wants you to avoid them. When you have to decide whether to do this activity again later, you will have part of your mind saying “I’m comfortable with those activities”.
- Positive: when you have activity that is positive and working towards your purpose and goals in life, then you will be building memories that reinforce those ideas later. You will feel more comfortable with the idea of choosing this type of action in the future.
Summarizing the words in a different way, the actions you make today create memories that influence the way you will decide tomorrow. Pursuing negative activities instead of positive – or even neutral ones – will lay down brain circuits that have a flavor of “familiarity” and adjustment. But, pursuing positive actions towards your goals will help you make supporting decisions later.